“Pointing your finger at somebody else doesn’t help you. But if you look at them as an example of how to find it in yourself, it can be valuable in getting you out of being a victim.”  -Kekua Kobashigawa

 

Self-development is a valid need. However, because of living a busy life, many people find it hard to have the energy nor the time to get started. And often, we tend to put ourselves at the bottom of our to-do list. But this can be detrimental to us and to those around us in the long run. 

As a fitness instructor, Kekua Kobashigawa has seen a lot of men and women who, beneath their need for physical fitness, lurks a dire need for mental and emotional healing. In this episode, Bruce and Kekua talk about the importance of self-development and how to succeed in it despite the pressures our society has put on us. They also discuss ways on how to break deep-seated insecurities, be comfortable in our vulnerability, have better relationships, and move from needing validation to a realization that we are capable and worthy. Our society has conditioned us to lock in our emotions, and our upbringing may have caused us to act, think, or feel in a certain way. But we can break away from all of these without guilt or blaming. There is a place for each of us. Tune in and discover how you can change your present reality and leave a lasting legacy for the generations to come. 

 

Takeaways: 

01:55 Self Development is a Valid Need

06:03 The Toxicity of Deep Insecurities 

12:46 There’s a Place for Everyone

17:04 Be Vulnerable

23:07 If You Can, You Should

28:34 Go Against Your Programming

36:32 Work to Understand

41:36 Choose to Believe in the Positive

46:05 The Rising Tide Lift All Boats

 

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Quotes: 

04:56 “It all starts with what we think of ourselves and how we think of ourselves.” -Bruce Jeppesen

10:20 “All women are strong. All women are feminine. All women are girly in their own way. That’s what the beauty of women is, in the same way that men can be macho without that machismo.” -Kekua Kobashigawa

10:39 “Masculinity is not toxic. Insecurity and fear that projects to the surface- that’s what’s toxic.” -Kekua Kobashigawa

17:09 “When you don’t know how to deal with your own, you don’t know how to help someone else.” -Kekua Kobashigawa

21:37 “We roll along with our lives as opposed to living our lives and having intention. We just don’t know that we can do that until you happen upon somebody who sparks that realization for you.”  -Kekua Kobashigawa

28:25 “You are valuable and you are worthy. But until you start to believe that, you never really get started.” -Bruce Jeppesen

33:47 “Pointing your finger at somebody else doesn’t help you. But if you look at them as an example of how to find it in yourself, it can be valuable in getting you out of being a victim.”  -Kekua Kobashigawa

4126 “The definitions that we have in our head and the way we use words,can throw people off, and that’s how so many fights get started.” -Bruce Jeppesen

43:11 “When people make us feel good, we want to make other people feel good. It all starts with what we choose to receive.” -Kekua Kobashigawa

 

Meet Our Guest!

Kekua Kobashigawa is a Life Coach, Executive Coach, Public Speaker, and Fitness Coordinator. She empowers women to build self-love and respect, so they can take control of their life. Since 2010, she has been coaching people through health and life, helping them navigate their way through difficult life changes by developing self-awareness and sparking big action. Kekua also runs a privately-owned clothing line and oversees a full fitness facility in a non-profit community center.