“If you’re in a toxic environment, toxic relationship, you don’t need to fix them. You need to get stronger… not stronger and tolerate, but stronger and leave.” –Jeramiah Solven

 

The most common toxic relationship is the one that you try to control in name of love. The saying goes, “if you love something, set it free” but if we feel threatened by losing what we love, oftentimes we hold on to people and things in an unhealthy way. This type of behavior stems from fear and a lack of self-love, which creates an environment of unworthiness. If you find yourself trying in this type of environment, whether it be romantic, platonic, or professional, this episode will help you identify and handle such relationships- like a sniper! 

This week, Jeramiah Solven, former member of the US Army and CEO of Conquer Academy joins the stage to highlights the real problem of why many people fall and tolerate toxic relationships- FEAR. Bruce and Jeramiah also discuss why you should take chance on yourself, find a mentor who believes in you, trust your gut, examine yourself if you are driven by ego instead of confidence, and receive help gracefully instead of doing stuff on your own (even if you can do stuff on your own). 

If you don’t have any reasons left to stay, don’t. But sometimes, having the courage to leave is a challenge. Tune in and discover 2 ways you can do right now to be strong and courageous to embrace the uncomfortable and confront that fear.

 

Takeaways: 

02:40 Take Chance on Yourself 

08:34 When You Don’t Have Reason to Stay, Don’t

13:46 There’s a Fine Line Between Confidence and Arrogance

18:04  Pick Confrontations Like a Sniper

23:08 Know Your Leader and Know How You Lead

27:07 Confront the Real Problem- Fear 

31:45 Challenge Yourself- “Suffering Saturday” 

37:49 Mindset Shift Starts with Untying Your MindKnots

42:33 Own the What’s Going On

44:21 Don’t Deprive Others of the Gift of Giving- Receive Well

 

Resources: 

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There is no justification for staying in a toxic relationship. If you’re being outmaneuvered by a toxic person, listen in as Bruce and @JeramiahSolven share 2 ways to help you get stronger and more courageous to handle difficult situations.… Share on X

 

Quotes: 

07:31 “I had to give all that up to go fulfill this calling that I felt that I had. I listened to my gut, I always trust my instincts, and I acted fast.” -Jeramiah Solven 

12:30 “It’s a little more difficult to build a company when you are trying to bring something good into society because it’s easy to sell people stuff that is not necessarily good for them.” –Jeramiah Solven

15:27 “There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. And it takes some losses in order to reel you back.” –Jeramiah Solven

21:22 “You need to seek out confrontation like a sniper would. You need to pick your shots.” –Jeramiah Solven

24:10 “The traits that build people up and break them down, we all have all of them in us. We’re not perfect human beings so we have aspects of our lives where we are diminishing people sometimes.” –Jeramiah Solven

27:41 “If you’re in a toxic environment, toxic relationship, you don’t need to fix them. You need to get stronger… not stronger and tolerate, but stronger and leave.” –Jeramiah Solven

28:18 “You need to create a plan of action about confronting that fear because that fear is the real problem. Learn to confront that and lean forward.” –Jeramiah Solven

36:56 “Those little teeny tiny steps are exactly how I learned to get over my fear.”  -Bruce Jeppesen

39:14 “When you break through a new physical limitation, the mindset changes.” –Jeramiah Solven

43:20 “Own what’s going on… because your challenges are challenges for a reason.” –Jeramiah Solven

44:00 “Be ready for people to throw the support towards you. You got to be ready to receive because it’s gonna come in waves.” –Jeramiah Solven

45:55 “When you don’t receive help from other people, you’re not giving them the gift of giving.” –Jeramiah Solven   

46:51 “Like to be a giver, but receive well. Always receive well so you don’t take that away from people. People love to help you.” –Jeramiah Solven

49:39 “It takes courage to own the challenges.” –Jeramiah Solven

 

Meet Jeramiah:

 

Jeramiah transitioned out of the U.S. Army and launched the coaching company Conquer Academy to teach leadership and high-performance principles to people who want to be the best in their field. Jeramiah has worked with clients ranging from CEOs, small business owners, pilots, active/former military, law enforcement, to a billion-dollar company.